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[At The Gates]

thanks constantine for the advice, and also the compliment.
well this might take some time for me to research and whatnot, looking up some tech schools.
I do need to get my life sorted out so I can figure out what I want to do 10-20 years from now...I am at that point where I need to start making more decisions that are good for me.
I have spent too much time playing video games, and messing around with my "e-penis" with the upgrades for my computer that mean nothing seeing how I barely play the games anymore.
As it stands mass is dead for me...I see not much reason to stick around, all my career endeavors have failed here.

oh and captiva, the reason this girl broke up with me was because of the stress she was dealing with at her home(her mother, step father), and with the added stress of me being laid off and with no income at the time just made the stress ten times tougher to deal with...yes I wish she made a better decision to stick with me, but she needed some time away to clear her head.
now we have been talking and things seem to be at that stage where I need to make the next step.and oh boy is it a big step.

and yes once again you guys are awesome everyones input has helped me sit back and think of all the pros and cons, and thank you especially billy and constantine...your gift cards to the outback steak house are in the mail.

[-=Penguin=-]

well im 16 dont know what to say but good luck with any decision you make, im sure it will b a good one

[Captiva]

oh and captiva, the reason this girl broke up with me was because of the stress she was dealing with at her home(her mother, step father), and with the added stress of me being laid off and with no income at the time just made the stress ten times tougher to deal with...yes I wish she made a better decision to stick with me, but she needed some time away to clear her head.
now we have been talking and things seem to be at that stage where I need to make the next step.and oh boy is it a big step.

Not to go all girly on you, but that sounds so sweet.

Just make sure you let the other girl know what is going on. This is starting to seem like an easy decision, kid.

[Glacius]

billy i expect to go to your farmhouse next time im in GA haha

Gates, if you ever visit my neck of the woods lemme know man, i can take ya to our ranch and you can blow some sh*t up :D

Tannerite ftw!!! for those who dont know what tannerite is google it :D

Edited by Glacius, 30 May 2007 - 02:23 AM.

[Silent Bob]

billy i expect to go to your farmhouse next time im in GA haha

Gates, if you ever visit my neck of the woods lemme know man, i can take ya to our ranch and you can blow some sh*t up :D

Tannerite ftw!!! for those who dont know what tannerite is google it :D

So...I take it that if I come to your ranch I can't knife you?

[kidcapri]

Gates, you said it best yourself, you are only 22. I say you should move, put the girl thing on the back burner for a while, and figure your own sh*t out first. I know guys that didn't start college until they were 24 so that isn't a problem. I mean if everything with this girl works out, thats good too, but don't make a girl part of your decision to make your own life better. Focus on your career for now, then worry about the girls later. Money is a huge cause of arguments in most relationships. So the more you have the less you argue.

[Billy Pumper]

yes pretty much all of you can come to my farm if you want. but none of you ever come around here lol cept maybe kapri and hes to chicken shit to have a beer with me in a bar. lol jk <3

[kidcapri]

Well having a kid puts a damper on your social life, but I will make it down eventually. I actually go to nashville, ga once every couple of months to visit my brother in law, but never really get the chance to go out and have a few drinks in valdosta. Eventually I will though.

[Mr. Sticks]

Money is a huge cause of arguments in most relationships. So the more you have the less you argue.

He is so right about this. I can't say much from my own personal experiences, because I'm only 16, but I've actually studied the whole marriage and family situation a lot in the past few years and have seen some bad family situations from a few friends. Money problems is the leading cause of divorce in America. Constantine and Billy are offering great advice, they're right, and the decision seems pretty clear to me. Go down there, get your career on its start by getting a job to get you by while you go to school, start looking for jobs while your still in school that you can shoot for once you graduate, and then once you've got a steady job and money isn't so hard to come by anymore, start to find that perfect girl. If that girl so happens to be your ex, just let her know what your plans are. Let her know you're working on a plan to help yourself get a steady foundation built up,and that you're gonna go to school, and if you two need to wait a while before getting serious again, then it's probably not a bad idea. I'm not saying you can't go out with her while going to school, obviously, maybe dating now might prepare you for life after graduating college, but a couple things I definitely wouldn't do until you've got your sh*t together is A, move in with her, and B, start planning a family until you both are ready. If you two get really serious, wait until you're done with school and stable before starting a family and having children (if you even want kids) because throwing a child in the mix can mess everything up if you aren't ready for it. It changes what you do with your life greatly and costs a great deal of money as well.

Anyway, thats my $.02. Whatever you decide to do, I wish you the best of luck, man. You're 22 years old. You're young. You've still got plenty of time left in this world to make a change for the future, so take it slow and do whats really best. Good luck Gates.

Edited by Mr. Sticks, 30 May 2007 - 03:21 PM.

[Frag0holic]

You could always come down to Florida, we always need skilled workers here, especially if you know how to build a roof! lol... And I'm sure there are going to be some really awesome job opportunities in New Orleans once they get their heads and asses wired together, which shouldn't be too much longer you'd think. In short, I echo the sentiment that the south is the place to be

[Billy Pumper]

decent advice from a 16 year old sticks. But if you need the help don't be afraid to take it from her parents or her. Move in with her if it will help you get on your feet, just be careful and don't go falling in love and get married or let her move in with you once you get your own place. Remember BITCHES COST MONEY, and you don't have any. So remember its Money first Bitch later.

southern girls will suck you dry, cause they are (mostly) daddy's little girl.

[Captiva]

decent advice from a 16 year old sticks. But if you need the help don't be afraid to take it from her parents or her. Move in with her if it will help you get on your feet, just be careful and don't go falling in love and get married or let her move in with you once you get your own place. Remember b*tchES COST MONEY, and you don't have any. So remember its Money first b*tch later.

southern girls will suck you dry, cause they are (mostly) daddy's little girl.

You sound like a boy scorned.
Maybe it's just you who has bad luck?

[Glacius]

So...I take it that if I come to your ranch I can't knife you?

knifin me on my own property hmmmm, you can try bob. But remember im from Texas and im one crazy mof*ckin asian to boot too

[Silent Bob]

Oh yeah, well half my family is from Texas and I'm one crazy ass muthaf*ckin' caucasian! But if you let me shoot some of your hardware, I'll save the knife for another day!

[ashbash]

Remember b*tchES COST MONEY, and you don't have any. So remember its Money first b*tch later.

I always have admired your outlook on life billy lol


GL with what you decide to do gates.....seen as im english i know nothing about anything....but dont move to england cuz we only employ polish people.

Edited by ashbash, 31 May 2007 - 02:44 AM.

[At The Gates]

well just an update....august 12th is the big move date.
Time to get ready, get my new(old but new to me) pick up truck a bed cap so I can just load my necessities, and sell off some sh*t I dont need....like my bed, dresser, couple OLD monitors, one of my mini fridges, and possibly my weight bench(the apartment place we are moving to has a fully loaded gym free to use(aslong as you pay rent).

so within 2-3 months of my moving to kentucky, I will have a shiny new gun rack, and probably some new toys .
and hope to have my life getting back on track.

[Glacius]

best of luck to you man!! keep us updated :D